In this photo he's about 8 months. Our first is 4 and change.
In this photo he's about 8 months. Our first is 4 and change.
"When I meet God, I am going to ask him two questions: Why relativity? And why turbulence? I really believe he will have an answer for the first." - Werner Heisenberg (maybe)
Our daughter is turning 4 in a few months, and our son is just over a year. Hopefully he's letting you get some sleep at night.Originally Posted by wiggin
awww, babies!
I'm happy that my 'baby' came around to make Sunday dinner: manicotti with Italian sausage and 4 cheeses (provolone baked on top). Simply delicious! And he did the dishes, too!
"One day, we shall die. All the other days, we shall live."
Wouldn't say it made me 'happy' but I got a real kick from reading old threads while using the 'search' function. Couldn't find what I was looking for, but that didn't really matter. I was struck by how long we've been asking the same types of questions as the world changed, just with different titles.
Maybe perseverance is a form of hope, and that's why I keep coming back to this forum, regardless of the SSDD redundancies?
Paging TWF Scandinavian friends: Has anyone here traveled from Oslo to Bergen? If so, can you recommend any places to stay south of Bergen.
South of Bergen I'd say Lisbon, but for less derisive recommendations PM kazuha
"One day, we shall die. All the other days, we shall live."
South of Bergen I'd say Lisbon, but for less derisive recommendations PM kazuhaI will do this! Thanks Minx.
Challenger. Just a v6 @ 305 hp. Planning cold air intake and exhaust work to bump those up a little bit. But that's late summer at best.
Our laundry washer crapped out yesterday. Hit 6 stores before I found an open box for half price. But wife also found a floor model smart stove that ended up cheaper than what she was quoted to fix two of the broken burners on our existing stove. So there went a grand on appliances. But the original sticker price on the stove alone was $1800 so I'll count it as a win.
Smart appliances still have a ways to go. I can use Alexa to preheat, but there is no command to turn it off...
"In a field where an overlooked bug could cost millions, you want people who will speak their minds, even if they’re sometimes obnoxious about it."
Ha! Love it! Would be the car I'd have if I was stateside, albeit the V8.
The colour is suitably outrageous too.
Today I bought a pair of Wellies. Haven’t owned those since staying in Kent close to 35 years ago. But a week ago I took Bella, an eight months, old working cocker with me to Amsterdam. And walking with her ruining my shoes rapidly, so wellies werr the sensible way to go.
A little bit of advise; don’t fly with your dog if you can avoid it.
Congratulations America
At a bachelor party in sthlm. Just learned that Obama & Cardi B drank up all the Pepsi in the restaurant last night
THANKS OBAMA
"One day, we shall die. All the other days, we shall live."
Pepsi...
What is wrong with them? And you if you wanted Pepsi. Blech. Flat sugar water.
Hi everyone, by the way!
We're stuck in a bloody snowglobe.
Not me, I had my margarita
I presume it was actually their entourage that was responsible for this heinous crime.
"One day, we shall die. All the other days, we shall live."
First day of a three month long leave, as well as our wedding anniversary. We had some rubbish weather earlier this week but today's been absolutely beautiful
"One day, we shall die. All the other days, we shall live."
Weight Loss Game Theory? I think that kind of peer pressure works for Weight Watchers and other groups that turn it into a competition. My sister lost a ton of weight in WW, but once she achieved the goal she lost interest and gained it all back. Then she signed up for a 3 year weight loss academic research study, lost the weight, and is now gaining it back....because the competition is over.
That kind of roller-coaster weight gain/loss isn't any 'healthier' than carrying around extra pounds, in fact it may be worse in the long run because it totally confuses the body's metabolism. And it makes them insufferable at social/family celebratory events that involve food.
oops, wrong thread?
9 kgs is a great achievement. How did you do it?
Tomorrow is like an empty canvas that extends endlessly, what should I sketch on it?
Thanks, I'm quite happy I can feel comfortable in my clothes again. I'm doing this by eating smaller portions in general, w/ drastically reduced frequency and size of meat portions, upped proportion of [non-starchy] veggies, greater discipline wrt desserts, baked stuff, chocolate etc, strict limit for alcohol allowance (2 drinks per week), minor increase in physical activity. Or, put more simply, substantial calorie deficit pretty much every day9 kgs is a great achievement. How did you do it?decided to stabilize now because I was honestly losing weight too rapidly (intended to only lose 500g/week) and I'm less than 2kg from my ideal weight anyway. The competition continues—I have to at least maintain this weight for another 8 weeks.
There's been a lot of criticism of studies on "nudge" interventions—esp. in the realm of dietary interventions—but I genuinely think our weekly weigh-ins have helped me stay on track. Motivation-wise it has been remarkably easy, because I have been making and eating more delicious food these past ten weeks than I have in any other ten week period previously. Strategy-wise, my aim has been to ensure that everything I eat is delicious and filling without being rich in calories. Favorite categories of meals have been savory porridges made from steel-cut oats* for breakfast, and a host of soups, but the ginger has been craving fresh salads so there's been a lot of that as well.
* flavored with stock and either small amounts of sausage or mushrooms: around 100 kcal per portion, obviously not for everyone but it's a type of meal that is deeply satisfying to me.
"One day, we shall die. All the other days, we shall live."
I for myself am following the "interval diet" - which basically means no calorie-rich food outside certain hours. Inside the window you should have a look at what you're eating but nothing strict, aside from the time limit.
It's not that I'm overweight or something but as you become older you have to watch your weight a bit more. This makes it easier and actually works for me.
Now I just have to get back to following my routine again - my youngest brother's marriage (with all the accompanying ceremonies) kind of made that impossible to follow.
Oh, and if any of you think of reducing sugar consumption - try Xylitol (a sugar alcohol). It's made from the bark of birches, has the same taste and sweetness level as table sugar but only 70% of the calories. It's also actually preventing caries (from what I read, the caries bacteria metabolize it wrong and poison themselves - similarly to how humans digest ethanol versus methanol) and can be used just like table sugar one for one - i.e. no filler needed like with Stevia or similar. I've baked cakes with it and neither me nor the other people eating those cakes have noticed anything different.
The only downsides: It may cause diarrhea if consumed in large doses (above 100 gram, so...), it has a very slight taste of mint when consumed pure (barely noticable though) and it's lethal for dogs. It's also a bit on the expensive side.
When the stars threw down their spears
And watered heaven with their tears:
Did he smile his work to see?
Did he who made the lamb make thee?
Wow, talk about drawing far-reaching conclusions
"One day, we shall die. All the other days, we shall live."
It describes the real life experience of every fat person I know to a tie. Including myself. Anecdotal I know, but I also know I'm not alone.
If you have any doubts about my weight loss experiences; I can tell you that after age 21 I have had every weight on the scale between 72kg and 140 kg. Losing 30% of my body weight over the run of a year? Done that. Increasing my body weight by 50% in the same time span? Been there. Learning about internal and external motivation? Yep. I can probably devise effective and delicious diets making you lose 10kg over 10 weeks.
I understand that feeling of satisfaction over your recent successes, I advise you you however not to slam the real life experience of other people just because you are pulling your belt a notch tighter for as long as it lasts.
It makes you sound like a smoker friend of mine who says that quitting smoking is easy; he's done it lots of times.
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Congratulations America
Well, excuse me for sharing my personal experiences. My sister lost her sense of smell (and taste) several years ago, due to a virus, but she didn't lose her need to eat, or her tendency to over-eat. One is biological, the other behavioral.
But I'm happy you lost your weight.
I was referring to this:
The claims about a purported negative health impact, and the explanation offered, are both questionable.That kind of roller-coaster weight gain/loss isn't any 'healthier' than carrying around extra pounds, in fact it may be worse in the long run because it totally confuses the body's metabolism.
As for anecdotal experience, I have certainly gained weight after losing it a couple of times in my life, but less than half of what I've lost, and only over a long time. Two steps forward and one step back equals one step forward.
Haters gonna hate, but I encourage my patients' repeated attempts to quit smoking, because I know that many of them will eventually succeed, just as many of my family, friends, colleagues and patients have. Some people have a pessimistic and defeatist outlook on life that makes them regard repeated failures as an indication of utter cosmic soul-crushing futility; they cultivate a cynical persona to protect themselves from the booboos of their own and their loved ones' failures. For my part, I've seen enough successes after repeated failures to be convinced that repeated failures are often better regarded as proxies for repeated promising attempts, which is indicative both of a determination that can be cultivated, and of the feasibility of tasks that may initially seem futile.
Every single successful entrepreneur in my life has failed repeatedly before succeeding. My own life has been a string of setbacks and failures followed by success. Of course, I have also seen the other alternative, and there has been no shortage of people who have utterly destroyed their lives, seemingly with no hope of recovery.
All of this is anecdotal evidence, and it can be interpreted in different ways. How we choose to interpret it, and how we act on that interpretation, is more indicative of personality and of philosophical idiosyncrasies than of any incontrovertible truth about reality. So be a hater for now if you wish, but I love you and I have faith that you can change one day if you just keep trying
"One day, we shall die. All the other days, we shall live."
I was just looking at your dessert pics in another thread, so don't criticize my (sister's) anecdotal experience as "far-reaching" while portraying yours as "normal".
I was gonna let this go b/c it's the "Happy Thread", but then you went on about your patients, and how you want them to succeed. Well, you can't help your patients if you don't understand where they're coming from. What might seem "far-reaching" to you is probably an every-day struggle to others, so don't belittle their reality!
My sister has struggled with weight her whole life. She's been given all sorts of reasons for it, and tried all sorts of "methods" to change it, but the most destructive thing has been the up/down yo-yo effect. Maybe you focused on "metabolism", but it's much more than that. She keeps what she calls her "fat wardrobe" in storage, anticipating a future failure. (The first time she lost weight, she gave her "fat clothes" to charity. But when she gained it all back, she had to buy new clothes. Rinse, repeat. She's also a shopaholic, which makes matters worse.)
Admitting this was a pattern of behavior destroyed her self-esteem and sense of self-control. It's a constant battle for her. She's constantly made to feel that it's a character flaw. Smoking isn't a good analogy because no one needs to smoke to stay alive. Giving up desserts (like the ones you post) isn't enough, either. FFS, she can't even taste!
Be careful in your comparisons; words matter.The mere suggestion that people can *change* can be interpreted as they're just not good enough as they are, if they're overweight. That 'standard' is even higher for women.
Last edited by GGT; 08-18-2019 at 05:13 AM.
You really think you know me, don't you?
Another thing I was thinking; wow, defensive much this morning?
Congratulations America
Bye Felicia
"One day, we shall die. All the other days, we shall live."
I'm down 5 kg this summer, was almost up at 80 kg 1½ year ago and that was my max weight while on cancer treatment.
I have also been down to 72 kg in that 18 month period. Currently at 73 kg with more muscles.
I want to get down to 65-68 kg but not sure that is realistic or even wanted.
My happyness is mostly that I give/take myself the time to run and workout right now.
I need to try to mentain this even if family life becomes harder, and that is my true challenge.
I rode my bike to work and back. Took me an hour both ways and it felt like a heavy work out, but I really feel good about having done this.
Congratulations America
Nice try, but I wasn't criticizing your sister, nor am I dismissive towards the struggle you describe. My objection was wrt the implied health & physiological claims and nothing more.
I addressed smoking because Hazir brought it up, but, frankly, the most effective strategies for helping people to quit smoking have a great deal of overlap with helping them make other lifestyle changes, even though smoking may be different wrt health aspects and mechanisms in many ways, including the difference you mention.
If a patient—or anyone else—expresses a desire to change something about their health, I believe it's important to offer encouragement and support, even though I am—like they are—aware of the pitfalls and risk of failure; there's no shortage of discouraging "realism", but there is typically a clear lack of positive and constructive support. Motivation should be nurtured; ambivalence should be recognized, and, if possible, developed. You may have a different view, but I'm not going to begin discouraging my patients or neglect to pick up on their hopes when I am in a position to do something more constructive.
I've had many patients tell me that, when they told their doctor or nurse they'd made (or expressed a desire to make) positive lifestyle-changes—eg. quit smoking, exercised more, started eating healthier, lost weight—they were met with indifference or skepticism and pessimism. That is a crushing experience that can make a person feel small, worthless and discouraged; it doesn't cost anything to instead give some sort of positive feedback.
You're free to have whatever opinions you like on this issue, and I have no doubt your opinions are based on your long experience with both patients and the things you've learned from yourself and your loved ones, but, when it comes to things that that are essentially matters of philosophy, personality, outlook etc... on those matters I fully intend to exercise my discretion and act in accordance with my own judgement until something substantial changes.
All of us are exceptionally good at telling ourselves and others why something can't be done, and we frequently justify this automatic pessimism as "realism". But the reality is that many things can nevertheless be done, sometimes, by some people—and a realist must be aware of that as well. Now go have a realistic day or whatever flavor of day you prefer.
For my part, my mother and some good friends are visiting, and I'm enjoying this feeling of being with a bunch of people that I love. It's a good start to our leave. My friends have a 4-mo-old cutie that is just totes adorbs, and they brought a bunch of fresh vegetables—including a bag of the most beautiful chilies—from their parents' farm, so I'll be busy pickling and fermenting today. We visited the farmer's market yesterday and my mother charmed a ton of people there with her decidedly un-Swedish behavior, loved her first encounters with Northern Swedish (esp. Sami) food and made plans to visit a family that makes traditional Swedish flatbread to learn how they make it. As a child, this behavior used to embarrass me deeply, but, as an adult, I can see that she's enjoyed herself much more than I have, so I reckon she's on to something.
"One day, we shall die. All the other days, we shall live."
I said that fluctuating weight and yo-yo dieting can be just as harmful as obesity. Plenty of studies confirm that, especially when they highlight eating disorders. Your objection is overruled.
I had a fantastic visit with my adult sons in Pitt. We went to the Zoo, had a nice dinner on 'the strip', and saw the awesome city lights from Mt. Washington. We laughed a lot, that was the best part.
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